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I have found how to run commands at start up in kde (no thanks to Google)
and...... its a *face palm* moment 
I created a shell script
Code:
#!/bin/sh
xrandr --output default --mode 800x600 --pos 0x0 -- rotate normal
wicd up
start > settings > system settings > start up and shut down
auto start > script file > add script > start up enabled
This fixes my resolution issue on login and as a bonus connects me to the internet.
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I bought this bad boy specially for backtrack.... its a sony vaio p (vgn-p11z/q)
It has a gma500 graphics card (but i don't think my problem is driver related)
Its a piece of crap... but its tiny, has a proper keyboard, wireless, bluetooth, 3g, usb ports.... bla bla bla
So heres my problem (on usb and hdd install)
When I reboot my display settings revert to 1600x768 and the menu bar un-maximizes
The resolution I want to use is 800x600 (if i can set this resolution the menu bar not saving isn't an issue)
Modifying the xorg.conf file has no effect (all the default modes are set to 1024x768 but startx loads at 1600x768)
running the command works
so im wondering how I can get that to run when I startx
Is there a location i can drop this .sh file into so that it will auto run on startx?
Code:
xrandr --output default --mode 800x600 --pos 0x0 --rotate normal
Will it need a special name? or will I need to mod another file to point to it?
Thanks in advance this has been bugging me for days.