thanks for the reply cyber. i was being kind of impatient, i was waiting only 30 seconds or so for the victim to come back up, it is in fact disconnecting then reconnecting though...im new to the wireshark thing (im actually reading a pdf on it now) hopefully i can figure it out .
as far as command i used
aireplay-ng -0 3 -a (bssid) -c (client) wlan1
im looking through the caps with the eapol filter now to see if maybe airodump just didnt print it...
thanks again for your help