As far as I've tested MITM with ettercap I've never found an home router that prevented ARP spoofing, however I haven't a broad experience 'cause I'm only an amateur (forgive me for my bad english too).
I did some googling and I found these, it shows that it is possible to mitigate an ARP spoofing attack in well determined conditions, so it could be that some router implements such features but I don't think sonot by now and not if your router isn't brand new XD
As I found in this paper(see scenario 3) from cisco systems, they developed something called ARP inspection (described in an human-readable form here in their blog). It seems to be something similar to your scenario (if I understood well): as they say in the blog, enabling ARP inspection will make the router drop strange ARP replies, but I think it's not your case 'cause I don't think you used professional routers such the one of the cisco's demo. In addition they talk about static ARP tables and again I don't think it's your case.
Answering your last question i think ARPSpoof and Ettercap are the best ones, I didn't searched for others 'cause it Always worked with them, but I think that if you google around for a while you'll find something...
If you find somethink keep me up to date! I'm interested in this topic too!


not by now and not if your router isn't brand new XD
