If they're using a webform on YOUR server to send you mail, then the mail comes from YOUR server, and no where else. What you need to do is what I set up on a couple of websites. Everytime an email is sent through the webform, the IP address of the person that filled out the form is logged to a database. The IP address can be gotten using basic HTML functions and inserted into a database using basic SQL commands.
This will work as long as they're not using an anonymous proxy server to browse your site.



